I love this page, but the MLP one makes me uncomfortable. I'd be uncomfortable even if it was a thin girl... Because first off, sexualizing MLP freaks me out and also, I take my kids to cons. I don't want my son staring at any girl in a see through bathing suit. If it were done just for the risqué cosplay section then I wouldn't care, but it isn't marked that way, so yeah. I really wish girls (all girls) would take into consideration the minors that are there, did it have to be see through?
Well, here we go.
I’m really questioning whether you’d be similarly uncomfortable with a thin girl wearing that cosplay. The very phrase, “I’d be uncomfortable even if it were a thin girl” reeks of your trying to justify a prejudiced reaction by insisting you’d react the same way in any circumstance.
If you’re worried about the sexualization of MLP? You’d do a lot better to go appeal to the brony culture that has literally made the fandom unsafe for young girls for whom the show was originally made. Go talk to the guy who tried to marry Twilight Sparkle or the folks who make outright pony porn. Not a young woman wearing something you think is too see-through. And to top it off? It’s barely see-through at all. It has a stripe of semi-transparent fabric down the middle and the only thing you can see is her navel and a bit of her bra. Give me a fucking break.
But these two things are not even my main concern.
My main concern is your asking women to police what they wear at conventions in front of your son. You mention only girls: “I wish girls (all girls) would take into consideration the minors that are there.” From your obsessive focus on womens’ clothing at conventions, I doubt you’d fuss if you saw a shirtless guy walking around, but the minute a girl wears a bikini or has a transparent stripe down her bathing suit, you throw a fit.
Your fuss about your son seeing a woman that shows skin actually makes me uncomfortable, because you’re already implicitly teaching your son that a woman should cover up. You’re already teaching him that showing skin, for women, is inherently inappropriate and makes them undeserving of respect. You’re teaching him to make women sexual objects based on what they wear.
Ever wonder why sexism is so damn prevalent or why violence against women is so common? This is why. People like you who, teaching your son that a woman is not deserving of respect based on what they wear. How about you teach your son not to objectify women, no matter what they’re wearing? Talk to your son about about the objectification of women, teach him that that woman is not doing anything inappropriate, that she is deserving of his respect no matter what she’s wearing, whether she’s covered from head-to-toe, or in the tiniest bikini she could find.
If you keep teaching your son these things, you’re going to wind up with a little misogynist on your hands. That woman’s transparent costume is not nearly as insidious as what you’re teaching your son. These kinds of behaviors and teachings lead to violence. If you want your son to internalize violence and misogyny, go ahead and keep teaching him this shit. If not, teach your damn son about respect and consent instead of whining to me about an MLP cosplayer.
And the risque cosplay section? Again, you must be new. Because I’ve never heard of a risque cosplay section at a con, or even on this site. I’m going to need you to try harder before you come and fuck with me with this shit again.
I’m not so sure if that Toph cosplay is me or not haha. I have an adult Toph cosplay featured here, but any young Toph cosplayers are submitted by others. Either way, thanks very much if it’s mine, and I’m sure the other cosplayer appreciates it if it’s one of the young Tophs on here. :)
I'm sorry to be a bother, but I wanted to say that this blog is amazing and wonderful! I found it by chance and couldn't be happier. I was concerning myself over a Cosplay I've been wanting to do (but figured I couldn't do what I wanted as Im short and overweight—bad combo huh?) But I found this blog and was like... wow why am I worrying? Its really inspiring seeing such positivity! I'm glad this blog is here or else id still be letting my stature control if I cosplay or not♡
Hi! I’m so glad you love our blog and even happier that you found it. I’m so happy you’re not worried about your cosplay anymore, and I hope you’re super-excited to work on and debut your cosplay. :) And as always, we’d love to see it submitted when you finish it. Thanks again and we hope to see your cosplay soon if you’d like to submit it!
Hi! I’m glad you like the Sivir cosplayer who submitted! That isn’t me, as most of the cosplays here are submitted by others. But their tumblr should be listed in the post, and I know they’d love to hear that compliment directly from you! Why don’t you shoot them a message? :)
I just saw one of my friends on here (she's cosplaying Harley Quinn and it's a pretty recent post) and isn't her costume awesome? I don't know I just feel all proud of her because she looks so epic in her costume (and she's making a pretty darned cool Winter Soldier costume too which I hope she'll submit when it's done.)
Oh hey! Glad you found your friend!! And she does look so amazing in her cosplay! It’s nice to see a friend of a cosplayer on this blog being sweet, supportive, and genuinely excited about their friend’s cosplay. :) And we can’t wait to see that Winter Soldier costume! We hope she submits! Thanks again!
"oh and nobody took my picture just my thin friends'" THIS MADE ME SO SAD ;_; I'll take pictures of every cosplay at japan expo 2014, i swear ;w;
Oh gosh, I’m so sorry! Sometimes the negative sides of being a fat cosplayer need discussing, but sometimes it gets to be a little much, and it can be overwhelming, frustrating, or sad. But I think your way of combatting that is a great one! Take pictures of others at conventions! It’s always fun to see all the cool cosplays! Make an effort to take pictures of a lot of cosplayers, as many as your camera can hold! And it never hurts to make an effort to take pictures of cosplayers you think may need your support! Take pictures of your fellow fat cosplayers! I bet their costumes look gorgeous, and we need to stick together and support each other! :D
I stumbled across this blog on my newsfeed and I must say thank you for this blog. I cant tell you how many times I've overhead people being nasty to others at cons about their size.
I’m glad you found us! I’m so sorry you’ve overheard nasty things like that. D: We’ve all heard them and it sucks to hear. But there are others out there! And hopefully, through blogs like this, we can build a little fat-positivity and awareness so that this sort of thing happens less! Glad you’re here, stay tuned, and stay positive!
A lovely message from a follower that I have to post :)
Can I just say that every time I see a post from you guys, I wait until the damn thing loads, no matter how slow my internet is going, because I love this blog more than any other blog I follow. Fuck yeah fat cosplay is literally my favorite thing and it makes me so happy that the women that post picture of themselves cosplaying are confident and beautiful, just holy shit I love you guys<3 kthatsit.
So I skimmed through this blog since I saw a retweeted answer on my dash. And I got to admit, of the pages I've scrolled through, there are only few people I would really consider "fat". Sure, all people have extra weight, but most of them have it within a reasonable amount. "Fat" for me is the point, where it starts getting unhealthy for your body, but maybe it's just me ^^" Just wanted to say that ;) Saw a lot awesome cosplays on here =)
Well, I’ve said this before, but I’m gonna have to say it again. A lot of people come on this blog and say things that are similar. I’m tiring of it a little. Once again, this is not at all a compliment. It’s actually going towards the realm of outright offensive. I’m going to say why, but honestly, because I’ve said it before, part of my answer is an answer to another ask from not too long ago, because if I’m going to have repeat myself, I’m not going to take the time to re-phrase it creatively.
Unfortunately I think you’ve missed one of the overarching points of the blog. Fat is not an inherently negative term. What makes it seem negative is everyone, especially the ever-pervasive media, indicating that to be fat is to be something negative. Fat isn’t a defensive badge or an inherently negative term. It’s an adjective plain and simple.
We are fat. Telling someone who is clearly fat that they don’t seem fat to you, or divorcing them from a term that absolutely describes them, is to tell them that they aren’t what other fat people are supposed to be like. It’s basically telling us that we mustn’t be fat because we look good in our cosplays.
Now I’m going to tackle the “reasonable amount” of weight point, and the “fat is where it’s unhealthy for your body.”
Unfortunately for you, you’ve hit one of the most common fat-shaming tropes. That fat people are inherently unhealthy, that weight must be carried in a “reasonable” amount. What you’ve made clear here is that the term fat, for you, means someone who is inherently unhealthy, and your definition probably comes with connotations of laziness and slovenliness.
You’ve told us that we musn’t be fat because we carry our weight “appropriately” and don’t look unhealthy to you. You’re telling us that we’re good fatties, not those unhealthy, lazy ones. That’s a “good fatty” archetype, something that Stacy Bias unpacks in a list here. I’d read up to avoid using those archetypes in the future as you’ve done here.
This sudden concern for someone else’s health is called called “concern trolling,” wherein someone criticizes another under the guise of concern. With fat-shaming, people concern-troll out of false worry for someone else’s health. "I’m all about loving yourself, but this is just unhealthy." How many times have you heard that diatribe, followers?
To top it all off? This concern isn’t even based in fact. There’s an article by Julianne Ross about fat stereotypes and Ms. Ross phrases it more eloquently than I. She discusses how the fat=unhealthy mess is actually pretty baseless:
"If being fat were inherently bad for us, then weight loss should bring about innumerable health benefits. But that’s not always the case: Multiple studies have seen little to no connection between weight loss and decreased risk of mortality.
In fact, some studies have found that fat people are more likely to survive cardiac events and that being overweight can have a positive influence on longevity. What’s more, losing significant weight is very difficult, and intense yo-yo dieting can cause plenty of health problems, too. The conversation about weight-related health risks also frequently ignores the problems that thin or underweight people may face as well.
Extremes on either end of the scale carry risks, and no one doubts that eating a balanced diet and getting regular exercise are good things. On its own, however, weight is not the issue.”
So, in short? We’re glad you like our cosplays. But most of the other things you’ve said are more insulting than I think you realized. I’d go read up a little more on fat positivity before posting again to make sure you’re not actually insulting the people you’re trying to be positive towards.
I actually thought all fat cosplay is disgusting, becase any convention I went too, the cosplay is revealing, but then someone told me to chack out your blog, and I change my mind, You guys's cosplay is awesome! (sorry for bad english, It is not my first language)
Hi! Thanks for your message! A lot of people walk around with the belief that fat people in general are disgusting, so it’s not surprising that you held that belief. We’re told everyday by the ever-pervasive media that it’s so. But after a little dose of fat positivity, it becomes pretty clear that this isn’t true, it’s just something we’re being told.
Even the part about people wearing revealing costumes is something we’re told all the time. Fat people are told that we shouldn’t wear anything revealing, and that becomes especially true for fat women. The intersection between slut-shaming and fat-shaming can be pretty brutal for us fat cosplayers who want to cosplay in revealing things. These mindsets are widely held, which is why it’s so important for us to deconstruct these ideologies and start un-learning what we’ve been brainwashed to believe.
So, in short, I’m glad the blog is doing what it’s supposed to do. :) Giving fat cosplayers a place to celebrate themselves and also show that fat cosplayers are also amazing cosplayers. :D And no worries, you english is just fine!
If people related to the cons are saying abusive things, they can be reported to con staff.
Another good point! If any in-person interactions get offensive, or in any way abusive, either verbally or physically, that is harassment. Report it immediately. Most cons have very strict no-harassment policies. Of course some cons are better at enforcing it than others, but trust me that the threat of getting thrown out of con shuts people up extremely quickly. I had a creeper just this past Anime North who turned tail and physically ran as soon as the word “security” came out of my mouth. Play hardball and report their asses.
Is ignoring really the best way to deal with cosplay drama? I just want to slit the throats of those jackholes saying I'm a "landwhale" and "too fat to cosplay" my character so bad.
Gosh, this got buried back in the inbox. Sorry!!
This is actually a good question. I can absolutely understand the anger that can happen when people are really nasty to you about cosplay. Of course I’m obligated to say that physical violence isn’t a good way to retaliate, but I don’t think that complete passivity is good either. A lot of people, when getting shit in person or on the internet, spout that mantra “Don’t feed the trolls.”
Well, I’m not sure that always works. There’s a lady named Steph Guthrie who presented at TED Toronto who speaks on not feeding the trolls. She ruminates on this much more elegantly than I, so I’m going to provide the link below. In short, she says that no, ignoring is not always the best way to go. It can often implicitly indicate that that sort of behavior is acceptable. She also gives some pointers on way to counter trolls. Her advice is mostly for an online context, but I think it could also help in-person interactions as well. :)
Picture anon, another key to getting your picture taken is to go as a popular or uncommon character. The costumes I've done that've gotten the most pictures have been Quina Quen from Final Fantasy IX and Ghetsis Harmonia from Pokemon BW (castle robe)
Wonderful point! Cosplays that you don’t normally see can get a ton of pictures! Especially if the show/game/comic is relatively new. So if getting your picture taken is something that can make or break your day, (No judgement here if it is. Getting your picture taken is just fun and plenty of folks get upset if they don’t), going for costumes that just aren’t done a lot is a good idea. :)
Ah, by asking how to get Mitsuru's tall boots to look right, I meant insofar as they...spread on larger calves. How do I make them not do that?
Ah, understood! Sorry for the misinterpretation. Well, If you want to buy boots, looking for ones with a wide calf to begin with helps. A lot of places like Lane Bryant, Torrid, Ashley Stewart, and other plus-sized shops carry boots with wider widths in the calves. Because yes, I have had tons of boots without that wider width that I could barely zip up (and a few I couldn’t zip at all). Some sites like Zappos will have that option within the search, so you can check the box for wide-calf boots and only have those results show up. I’ve even seen wide-calf boots on payless. :)
If you can’t find boots to buy (it might be hard since it’s summer), I’d go with a boot cover. You can make a boot cover to your measurements exactly, so no spreading on the calves at all. It’ll fit your leg like a glove. :) Hope that helps!
Hey, not sure if it's you in the photo of the crossplay Harley quinn, but I was curious if there's a place to see more of the costume or other costumes that have been made. I think it's really cool and like to see more plz, ty. :)
Hi! It isn’t me in the crossplay Harley Quinn, but the submitter might have a link to their cosplay page if you go to their blog directly. If not, send them a message and ask! They may have a deviantart or cosplay page they can direct you to! Some submitters do submit with links to their other cosplays, but in the cases where they don’t, going directly to them and asking can help. Hope that helps a bit!
Would it be okay for me to submit a casual cosplay idea and ask others here if it's any good? I have a Hatsune Miku wig but no legit costume and so I threw something together with clothes I already have but I need opinions.
Sure, that’d be just fine! Getting constructive criticism from a body-positive space is a great idea. It’ll help give you pointers on costume construction only, no body-shaming nonsense that can happen on the nastier sides of the internet. Go ahead and submit, tell us what you’re going for, what you’re having trouble with, and any questions you have and we’ll be glad to give our collective advice. :)
Hi there. I'm trying to cosplay Harley Quinn's Arkham Asylum costume for comic con with my boyfriend, but this is my first time ever cosplaying. However, being fat I am having a hell of a time trying to find a red underbust corset that'll work for me, for a reasonable price. Do you have any information on where I may be able to find a cute corset that'll fit someone between a size 28/30?
Hi there! Hmm, the corset is a tricky one. I’ve seen plenty of plus-sized ones at conventions themselves, especially places like Dragon Con. But I’ve never gone about buying one online. I’ll turn to the followers. Followers? Who’s got the good plus-sized corsets?
Hi! I’m glad you like one of our Luna cosplayers! Unfortunately, that isn’t me. Most of the cosplays featured here are submissions. I only have two-ish posts on here. But if you scroll to the bottom of the notes, the submitter should give you the cosplayer’s url. I’m sure the cosplayer in question would love to hear this from you directly. :)
I'm 15 and I would love to try to cosplay Tony Stark but I'm only 5'3" and I'm a size 14-16(US). The problem I have is that all my weight is in the wrong places (sides, back, arms, face/neck, and thighs) and I've always been self-conscious. Should I give it a try?
Hi! I absolutely think you should give it a try! I’ve seen Tony Stark cosplayers of a myriad of heights, body types, races, and genders and I’ve never seen one I didn’t think looked badass. Let us know if you have any other questions, need more encouragement, or even pointers on cosplay construction. Hope to see a Tony Stark from you soon! ;)
I love this tumblr, but seeing all these great cosplayers talking about "oh and nobody took my picture just my thin friends'" is really, really disheartening. Is there any way you can encourage more positivity on submissions? I just really don't want to have to unfollow because it's starting to remind me why I'm scared to cosplay. I like having a dashboard that doesn't make me feel bad about myself!
Well, we do already encourage people to be body positive in their posts and we strictly forbid any diet-talk in posts. Those rules are in our submission guidelines. But I haven’t addressed bad convention experiences themselves. On one hand, it can be very discouraging to folks who want to read about positive experiences in fat cosplay to read about bad cosplay experiences. On the other, it is a part of being a fat cosplayer that can happen and often needs to be talked about and addressed.
Since we’re submission run, regulating the text in each post is a little tricky and the guidelines aren’t always black and white. I tend to avoid editing or denying posts unless absolutely necessary and those are cases that outright defy our submission guidelines. However, I understand that seeing negativity in a largely positive space may be jarring.
For this one, I think I’m going to ask the rest of you all. How do you feel? Should posts about bad convention experiences be limited or should we keep addressing them as something that is a challenge for fat cosplayers? Maybe a middle-ground could be adding something akin to a trigger warning for bad convention experiences so that folks that want to avoid those stories don’t have to see them?
Do you have any tips on how to do an outfit like Mitsuru Kirijo from Persona 3? I was thinking her fencer outfit with the tights and white shirt. But the issue is the tights and the tall boots. How do I get them to look right?
Hi! Well, for the shirt and skirt parts you mayy be able to thrift for those. Sometimes that can save on money and time. To get those more exact, though, you could easily find a simple pattern for those. You may have trouble finding a shirt with sleeves that get larger at the ends like hers do, and her skirt seems to have either some panels or even some large pleats going on? (I’m not familiar with Persona 3, so I may be wrong on both counts). Making it yourself will be a bit more exact, so if you have the resources to do that, I’d suggest it.
As for the boots, you can do one of two things. You can either buy some tall boots or make boot covers. She does look like she has riding boots on if you look at the side zipper and the buckle on the side. Those are pretty easy to find on sites like zappos, but in some cases those can get expensive, especially with how tall hers are. With a boot cover, you could get whatever shoe you’d like so long as the bottom of it has the same shape. You’d essentially be making a giant sock that goes over the bottom of the shoe and allows the heel to poke out, using spandex (with a sewing machine that can do zig-zag stitching if at all possible). Sites like cosplaytutorial here on tumblr have much more detailed tutorials than I can give you in an ask. Hope that helps!
Good evening. I was wondering if you could possibly give me any suggestions. I'm an "obese" male, and about 5'11"... I want to cosplay to my body type but, unfortunately, I cannot think of a single character I can cosplay. Please and thank you! :-)
Hi! Well, I generally advise that people not worry about cosplaying their body types. First, because the media generally does not have many portrayals at all of fat people and the ones that exist can be pretty insulting. So first, make sure that you’re not cosplaying a character because you feel that that’s the only character you’re allowed to cosplay as a plus sized cosplayer. You can cosplay whoever the hell you want, body type be damned.
However, I do see where cosplaying a fat character, particularly one that is actually a positive portrayal of fat folks, can be great! It can increase positive visibility of plus sized people.
Overall, I would think through the books/tv shows/animes/ comics that you love. Which characters stand out to you as favorites? Are there ones that you love who are also plus sized? If so, go for it! But if not, don’t worry! Cosplay your favorites regardless!
Please change your url. The term "fat" is offensive,Use "Chubby" instead xx
I’m sorry if you feel that fat is offensive, but part of the point of the blog is to help reclaim the term. Fat does not have to be an inherently negative term. It’s become negative through people’s associating fat with things that are negative. We’re here to make it have a more positive connotation than it often has.
So nope, we’re not using chubby. We’re using fat quite deliberately. I’m sorry if you don’t personally enjoy the term and I respect your right not to use it. You have every right to dislike our use of it and are welcome to refrain from following us or our posts if that makes you feel better. But we’re not going to stop using it. We’re respecting our own right to use the word fat in a way that we feel is going to make things better for fat folks.